anyone ever had to deal with?

[saxman]

the fact that the time has come for ,the time that my Mom needs to sell the Long tine fam. House? since the [ 30s 0r early 40s] the funds will go to take care of My Dad. . I have no problem with it. the care he gets is the BEST. I was always told that i would have a trust fund , That i dont need [ by the way]. i get along by my self. but the rest of the kids want to give My Dad less care thinkingtt hat they will get more . Thats only what im thinking , I dont know it for sure or fact. i say Go Mom sell it and enjoy . and the funds will able My dad to live in a good place and be taken care of.!!! i dont want anything . my problem is that sorry to say some n fam members see it different .some see it as a way to live , without earning a place in this world. ,,,, sorry if im out of line tonight , but im not, in my mind my MOM . is the Person that deserves ALL the Respect and All the funds that will make her life Easy. Fun ,. Relaxed .Any thing that she wants it to be . # 1 without guilt. that they want to put on her now.

[Randy & Betty in Pa]

Mike ....

Your thinking sounds right to me.... As to those that might think differently... Hell in time they will get over it... or they won't... In your heart you know what the right thing is and your doing it... Nothing else to say...

Best to you and yours Mike.... A prayer for your Dad....

R. from Pa

[Amy in Vermont]

I'm with you, Mike.

I understand not wanting to sell a family home for sentimental reasons, but if your Mom takes that money, and invests it right, it will produce enough income to help care for your dad, AND leave some money in trust at the end.

I would have loved to inherit my family home, or the money, but it was my PARENTS property, not mine. The proceeds from the sale, plus what my dad invested over the years, are now providing enough income that he does not have to tap into the principal at all to support himself and my mom in a very nice facility, without comprimise.

If there is some left over after they are gone, my brother and I will share it. But we both hope they both live long enough to spend it all!

A

[ponytail]

Luckily we were spared having to sell my mom's house during her final illness, but I'm sure there would have been issues if we'd had to. Her sister made ugly scenes when I honored my mom's wish to be cremated (the family is Catholic -- it's a long story. You can cremate someone, but only if you bury their ashes.) Anyway -- if relatives have a problem, they will just have to get over it. The people who have the authority to make the decision also have the right to. Like Randy says, you know in your heart that the right thing is being done. Sending harmonious Rudy energy your way.:)

[saxman]

i did not mean to inply that the house or property was the house she lived in now, My Mom and Dad retired to the High Desert near me and the Home site she sold was only used as rental property , but Has Lots of Memmories, for our whole family. about 80 years of branching out kind of thing . for the most part i understand it when others are hurt . by the sale, But Dad deserves the best. as far as i am concerened.

[Eva]

I think you are right, Mike. It's their property, so it's their money. And yes, they both deserve a good life and good care. It is very sad that other familymembers can't see that or don't want to see that. I think you are doing a great thing to be there for your parents. Take care, Saxman!

Eva

[hoops]

Mike,
since my mom passed away last June, My dad has been trying to come up with a way to keep the family house, after he is gone, that will make all of his kids happy. There are 9 of us( his kids) and trying to make all of us happy just is not possible. what I know is that the house is HIS and the way i feel, because it is his he can do whatever he wants to do with it. I'm like you, i don't care if i ever get a dime of "inheritance" after my dad is gone, my inheritance is my family, my siblings and siblings in law and all of their children. I know a few of them don't agree, they want something financial, but ya know what, they can just get over it because if they think my mom and dad lived to leave them money, they are the ones who are thinking wrong. Peace to you my friend
hoops