new start

[david uk]

well

after a year and a half of serious depression and medical difficulties I am feeling good about myself.... and for this I thank many people including several rudie friends... Dee, Anne, Agnes, Eva, Marjan etc

I now feel like dating again for the first time in a long time, and (as you know Dee and Agnes) have met someone on the internet who lives down in London... and am starting do get flutterings in the stomach.... we have arranged to meet in London in 2 weeks' time. We have chatted a lot on the net and the phone, and quite simply he is gorgoeus.

Well anyway all I wanted to say is that even if this new date doesn't work I am so pleased to feel that I may be able to date again.

Big thanks above all to Dee, a true friend xxx

[sister rose]

That's wonderful for you, David! I'm glad to hear things are working out for you. Its funny how life throws in little snags every now and then that make us want to give up...fortunately there are people like those here whose kind words are just enough to overcome any obstacle! Best of luck to you, David! :)

[david uk]

thanks sister rose

my only problem is that he doesn't know the problems I have with debt etc but I suppose I can talk about those when we have got to know each other.

it seems silly to say that a singer and her website have helped me through some very tough times but we all know how great it is to be a rudie...

[sister rose]

I don't think he needs that much info at this time, David.....it should have no bearing on how you feel about each other and I'm sure there are things he hasn't told you yet...give the relationship time to grow and learn about each other gradually!



we all know how great it is to be a rudie...
Can't argue with that! ;)

[KarenSews2]

"we all know how great it is to be a rudie..."

Absolutely! Was just talking to another Rudie the other day (I won't mention any names, RJ!! ;) ), and we were agreeing what a wonderful (and strange!) place this MB is, and how we have some terrific friends because of it.

So happy to hear you are feeling better!

[hoops]

so glad to hear you are feeling better! keep the momentum going forward and yes it is great to be a rudie

[Melba]

David,
So glad things feel like they are coming together for you. Take your time with this new interest and keep an open mind. Just keep going forward.....and have fun! :D

[Cardiffgal]

and quite simply he is gorgoeus.

David,

I am sure no truer words have been about yourSELF. Good luck on the date and I agree with you and all others. Just take it one date at a time. No need to pour it all out . . .

[pulmike]

Good luck David. But remember its perfectly common for everybody for dates to not go so well. Don't depend on it working. Instead, just depend on yourself to give it a real chance. Its just a chance, no more than that. If it works- great. If it doesn't, oh well. The important thing is: you can't win if you don't play. Give it a chance.

pulmike

ps. I met My Lady on the only blind date I ever had in my life. They can really work. I'm proof of it.

Mike

[Agnes]

Cherish the ocean of tumbling dolphins in your stomach, David :) I hope your date will be the best ever!

[Dee]

Awww shucks David, you’re getting me all farklempt. LOL

I'm with Rose. Discussing finances on your first date isn't necessary.

Just have fun and keep your wits about you. He "looks" nice yes, but it's what's on the inside that matters. You know, the liver, the brain, :p but most importantly the heart! (You know what I'm saying.)

xo

[Manchester]

Enjoy the whole dating experience David, even if it doesn't lead anywhere it is another big step on your road to recovery. How could he not think you're as special as we all do?
I agree with Rose too, everyone has some sort of baggage; he doesn't need to know everything yet.
Take care, and have fun!
Anne
:)

[moe75]

Enjoy yourself David. Just keep telling yourself that you deserve happiness!
:)

[gisli]

"Love is in the air
everywhere I go...."

Heck David, I still remember the last time I fell in love, it was 20 years ago and it still lasts, it´s an evergoing wonder of things.....love is.
So glad you found that feeling, hope things work out well for you.

[RedjackRyan]

Good for you David! I wish you the best, now get out there and seize some of that happiness you so richly deserve!

[Denise]

David - hope it goes well but don't get too down if it doesn't. Your "someone special" is out there somewhere!

[strech]

Good Luck with your date David. Be Happy ;)

[Charlie]

Good luck we all deserve some hapiness don't we.

[david uk]

thanks for the sound advice and good wishes everyone :) :) :)

[ponytail]

Wow, I remember the excitement of going on a date! The butterflies -- hope you have a lot of fun!

My partner and I met through a classified newspaper ad in 1979, which I guess was that era's equivalent of the Internet. And we've been together ever since. It's safer not to count on him being the one -- but you never know.

I'm very glad to hear you're feeling better. Sending good thoughts and best wishes your way.

[mixtymotions]

My ears are open for the juiciest of details...;)

[Eva]

Damn David! And this after all the hard work I did to ruin your life! :eek:
But seriously... I'm very happy for you. Have a good time with this gorgious guy.
And don't listen to Mixty... I want to hear them first! :rolleyes:

Eva

[david uk]

well you know what... although today he sent me several text messages and a few messages on the website we met on, he didn't turn up for our chat on skype....

now he wasn't hiding as he was visible on that site and on msn.... I could have buzzed him asking him where he was, but instead I just logged off and thought "oh well, we'll chat tomorrow"....

is this me???

it feels so good to be so relaxed.

[Dar]

David, so happy to hear you are feeling better and feeling up to tackling the dating world again!!

There could be any number of reasons why he didn't make your chat, don't let it bother you.

Just have fun and save any discussions of baggage....which we ALL have...for later dates after you've gotten to know each other better.

Keep us posted!!

ps...don't forget, you're pretty darn gorgeous yourself!

[david uk]

well, I had my date down in London on Sunday... and what can I say except :) :D :)

I bought new clothes for the event lol went down to London where I arrived early so he told me to go to the shop where he worked so I could wait there till he finished.

He looked exactly like his photos (always a good sign lol) and we hit it off immediately... we went for a few drinks, then a meal, then a few more drinks. We met at 4pm and parted at 11pm and there was hardly a silent moment... I knew things must be going well when at about 9 he looked at his watch and said "is it that late already? I must be having a really nice time..."

A very genuine, very nice guy... we will definitely be meeting again- he has already asked me when I can make it down to London again.

It's given my confidence a huge boost.. obviously I don't know what the future holds, but it's off to a very good start :)

[RedjackRyan]

Cool! glad the date went well, sounds like you two had a fantastic time! I can feel you smiling through the computer monitor.. lol

[Cardiffgal]

good luck in ALL your new ventures.

[Eva]

That sounds good David! I'm glad it went so well. He obviously likes chihuahua's. :) Well, who doesn't...?

Eva

[ponytail]

So glad to hear it went well. Congratulations!:)

[Agnes]

Great, David! :D I'm glad it worked out so well! A toast to the next date!
And, hey, if he looks exactly like his pictures... ;)

[Dee]

He looked exactly like his photos (always a good sign lol) and we hit it off immediately...

And he takes a handsome photo too, I must say. :) ;) :D

[david uk]

we had a great chat this evening and he was suggesting coming up next week on wednesday.. I am thinking on the one hand this will be great as we get on great... but I am afraid of things going too fast.... oh I don't know what I am afraid of ....

well I suppose I am afraid of feeling that I need to show him where I live... he is an interior architect and I have a small bedsit....

really looking forward to seeing him, he's obviously interested in me as he's wanting to come up to nottingham for the day....

[Dee]

Dear dear David,

How many times can I say it? Relax dear man. He said he was coming to see you, not to evaluate your living quarters!

(((HUG)))

[Eva]

And David, don't forget you have a wonderful pet: Janis the Bee. Remember her? She is quite special.

Eva

[DaveM]

I'd join in with the rest in urging you to relax, David, but I'll bet all the others know it isn't possible as well. Just do the best you can, be the best you can, and if the tension gets high enough that you start dropping things and the like, you'll be able to tell a lot by whether you're both able to laugh about it.

Remember....he's most likely about as "calm" as you are.

Things can't possibly go as badly as they did on one of my blind-dating adventures. We'd spent hours talking by phone and agreed to meet; she asked me to pick her up as she said she had no car. So....I went to the address she had given me, knocked on the door....and her husband opened it.

[hoops]

David, wow! sounds like things are going well for you...fantastic! enjoy yourself!

[david uk]

second date was tonight... my italian friend came up to Nottingham from london for the day.... we had a great day... really don't know if this will be friendship or relationship but in fact I don't care- either will be great... we spent 9 hours together today with hardly a silent moment....

as we said goodbye at the station he said "we have to do this again soon"

that's a big boost to my confidence again :p

ps he is very gorgeous tho :p

[david uk]

And David, don't forget you have a wonderful pet: Janis the Bee. Remember her? She is quite special.

Eva

oh Eva, as my friend and I waited for the bus today, we saw a large bee dying in the road... could this have been my pet bee janis dying of jealousy?

ps for anyone who does not understand this, it refers to a phone conversation I had with Eva while a very large bee was flying around me.....no, I didn't think you'd understand lol

[Eva]

second date was tonight...

Second date????? But David, you are gay...! :eek: :rolleyes:

[RedjackRyan]

Firstly.. to the bee thing.. Where Eva is concerned, i'll believe just about anything :D

Secondly.. Glad the second date went well.. As to relationship or friendship.. go with it dude. What will be will be, sounds like you two are already well on the road to friendship anything else is gravy :)

..To be happy in all you do is all i want for you my friend.

[diver_boy]

Good for you David - you're a kind soul. I wish you lots of luck and love on your new venture ;)

Chris

[Dee]

Oh no, bees again! :eek: LOL

Glad your day went so well, David. (But then you already know that.) ;)

[ponytail]

Glad to hear things are going so well, David. Good luck to you and your friend!:)

[Dar]

My what good taste you have David. ;)

It's always a good sign when you can spend so much time with somebody and never run out of things to talk about!! I'm with everybody else, don't worry about whether you are moving toward a FRIENDship or an official RELATIONship, as an honorary pirate, you will find happiness on either ship (sorry couldn't resist ;) ). Plus I know plenty of 'just' friendships that somehow magically became something more. I think there's a few of us on the board who can speak to that experience, myself included.

Good luck in whatever direction the ship sails!! Either way it sounds like you are having some serious FUN!

[david uk]

My what good taste you have David. ;)



of course Dar you say that without the slightest hint of bias :p

thanks for your supportive words Dar, Diver Boy, Dee, Redjack, Eva, Redjack etc etc etc lol

you are great people :)

[david uk]

oops Redjack got 2 mentions there... I blame Randy an Betty

[Dee]

Love makes the world go round. It also makes people a little dithered at times. :D

[Eva]

Hungarians, Italians...

Indeed good taste, David! ;)

Eva

PS: does he have sisters? (Just kidding)