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saxman
08-28-2009, 08:03 PM
It was a Great Night to remember my Dad at a service that my Sister Ginger managed to put together
Ginger is the one of 5 sisters that has the biggest heart and i think she cares about all of us more than anyone could imagine . She always Manages to get things done when everyone else cant. I Took Ginger to a Janis Concert a few years ago and she sat in the front row at the something factory in Hollywood calif , maybe knitting factory ? my memory is not good today . but i remember looking over and seeing her cry when Janis started to sing . Her fist time seeing Janis live .
The service was a night of good times to remember for ever . there was a slide show that included pictures of all the kids [ 7 of us ] all different stages of our lifes. My Father Jackson Bower was a good hard working man That was honest and supported us in anything that we wanted to do in life. i as a kid had everything a kid could need and then some . My first Sax was a 1930s Selmer cigar cutter , Mt parents always gave me the best of everything , you might say i or we all were spoiled .
My Dad loved big band Jazz so when i entered the church hall the music was familliar , it was all Me playing in Bands from back in the late 60s and 70s . Some of my friends that are musicians were there and a couple of them were listening to themselves on tracks that they hadent heard in 35 years , Ginger made a very special night to remember for me , and even hired or cattered an ice cream stand because My Dads favorite dessert was an ice cream sunday , so after the service we all went outside and got an ice cream sunday . Nice touch to the night.
i had my Girls with me and they helped me through the night . Im so Proud of my 3 daughters and im the luckyest Dad on this planet To get so much love from them . Now its my turn to Take over as the wise one . Hope i can do as well as Jackson My Dad . He will be missed Thanks for letting me share and Thanks to my sister Ginger for making the night happen

coffeegyrl
08-28-2009, 11:52 PM
A great tribute to a very special man. so sorry for your loss saxman.

Randy & Betty in Pa
08-29-2009, 08:29 PM
Mike what a great post.... so different from the Saxman of years back when I first saw you on the board.... You brought a tear to my eyes.... Yes.... Just one, still thats saying a lot to get this old fart sniffling....What a fitting tribute of memories and ice cream ( I guess the ice cream was sort of because your family are all rudies and well we know how rudies are around ice cream...) I for one Mike think that you are far wiser than you give yourself credit for as well as more feeling and kinder then most.... I suspect that wisdom and kindness runs in your family based on those I've met and what you've written...

A fitting tribute for a great father..... And Mike, you are your fathers son... A great father and a great friend to many. Betty and I feel lucky and blessed to have been blessed with meeting you, Our lives are better for it...

Stay well My friend.... You've got stuff to do...

best to you

R & B

JoanM
08-30-2009, 05:12 PM
Mike, to celebrate the life of one's Dad is a bitter sweet event. It allows you to remember and celebrate the good and fun times, to reflect on the past...but yet you realize the future will have a hole, one that does get filled but is never the same.

What you've written reminded me of my Dad, and the celebration we had for him in 2003 when he was, as he liked to say, "Called home". Like your Dad, my Dad loved ice cream sundaes, and ice cream, and anything he could put on ice cream. After his service we invited friends to join the family at a serve-yourself "bodascious" ice-cream sundae bar...(bodascious was the ultimate compliment Dad could give). My Dad believed with all his heart and soul in heaven and I can tell you it won't be heaven without ice-cream sundaes. joan

hoops
08-30-2009, 07:43 PM
Saxman, a short time ago, you came on this board and said you had little feeling over your dad's death. I knew it would come and you have shown this in your post above. you have deep feelings, beautiful feelings, wonderful memories , joys and sorrows. thank you for entrusting some of those with us. ((((hugs)))) to you
peace
hoops

JudyR
08-30-2009, 08:28 PM
Mike, what a great night to remember!

saxman
09-03-2009, 07:47 AM
you ar right , i sometimes forget that having no emotions dont mean i have no feelings, Thanks for that correction, it made me feel ok, and Thanks for all the rest of feed back Love you all

Cricket
09-03-2009, 08:50 PM
Saxman - That's a beautiful tribute your sister had for your dad. I am very sorry for your loss. My father loved ice cream too - vanilla eaten out of a soup bowl with a big old tablespoon. I can still see him on the couch eating it wearing his grey "comfortable" sweater. I wish your father great joy on his new journey.

Cardiffgal
09-04-2009, 10:13 AM
Your words touched my heart. Thank you for taking the time to share your special day and special family.

Be well and walk lightly