My Mother died

[Darlene]

My mother died at 7:29 AM EST.
Peace, Darlene

[Oak Kitten]

My condolences, Darlene.

Oak

[corolla girl]

Condolences to you and your family, Darlene, you are in my thoughts and prayers.....corolla girl......

[Dee]

My condolences to you, Darlene.

[david uk]

big hugs to you, Darlene from over the ocean.

[marjan]

My condolences to you, Darlene. Sorry to read about this sad news.

[Elliott]

I'm thinking of you.

[KarenSews2]

Deepest condolences, Darlene.

Karen

[Ginny]

Take Care, Darlene.

[Chet]

My condolences, Darlene. Stay strong and be comforted that she's no longer in pain.

[Kathleen Brogan]

We appreciate that you've let us know. Thoughts are with you.

[Roady]

Darlene, My condolences to you and your family. Will keep you in my thoughts as you go through this difficult time.

[saxman]

My condolences to you, Darlene.

[Agnes]

My condolences, Darlene.

[stardust]

I am so sorry for your loss. Don't neglect to take care of yourself and your needs during this difficult time.

[aabram]

Darlene, some families are close, and some are not. Some are in between. From what you have told me, you have the best outcome possible. Sometimes you can only pray for a swift and peaceful end to suffering. I'm sure you're glad it's all over for her.

You still have my continued prayers.

Annabel

[Eva]

Darlene, my condolances. Did you get to see her in the end?
Take care.

Eva

[Denise]

My sympathies to you and your family...

[RedjackRyan]

my condolences and sympathy.

[Rickster]

Darlene, So sorry to hear the news! My sympathy goes to You and your family! God Bless!

[mysteryc]

i am so sorry to hear of your loss... stay strong darlene, and accept the comfort of those around you...

[Darlene]

Thank you guys for all your good wishes and support. Pulmonary Fibrosis was the disease that finally took her life my mother's life. She had been sick for only a short period of time that we knew of, but she was in a lot of pain. She could hardy breath and was always being in a panic. I did see her shortly before her death. It was one of her "good" days, a gentle goodbye, one that I will remember fondly. We bury her today, a small graveside service that's what she wanted. Again thank you!
Peace, Darlene

[Judy]

I'm really sorry.

Judy

[Marcia Drummergal]

Heartfelt sympathy to you from me Darlene. Take good care of yourself.

Marcia :(

[Dar]

for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. I hope you draw comfort from knowing that she's no longer suffering.

[Jan de Vries]

Condoleances from my part too, all the way from Holland.


Jan

[hoops]

Darlene,
you have my deepest sympathies
peace
Noel

[BeckyVA]

Darlene,
so sorry for your loss; my condolences and deepest sympathy. I am glad you were able to see her ...take care, Becky

[kiwi mike]

So sorry to hear that your mother died. As I said, I find it very difficalt to speak well enought....so....Requien a Pace.....rest in pease.

Kiwi Mike

[mixtymotions]

"A gentle goodbye"....those tender words put a lump in my throat. Peace be with you, Darlene.

[diver_boy]

major huggs heading your way

prayers too...

[Lin]

I am so sorry.

Lin xo

[DaveM]

I am sorry Darlene. I gather your relationship with your mother was, shall we say, "complex" (and believe me I can identify). Nonetheless, when someone is gone it is a time to remember. I hope the memories are good, and I bid you peace.

[Azure]

There aren't any words to say except I hope the life she lived was complete, and those of you who still have a mother living, call her today or send her some flowers, just because she's your mother.

[Darlene]

Thank you all for all your posts, concerns, and prayers. MY mother had been pretty sick but only for about 5 months. She went downhill fast. My mother and I had a very strained relationship, but the last thing she told me was "I love you Darlene and if I don't see you again here, I will see you on the other side". That was a very loving moment from my mother to me. My sister who loved mom very much and whom mom loved very much was so angry with me for not spending more time with her when she was alive. I gave my mother what I had to give her when I came to say goodbye and she was very happy with that. The only bad think about the funeral was they had taken pictures of mom in the hospital of my sister and my mom looking lovingly at each and kissing other and my sister and her grandson playing with his truck my niece and mom(Mom only saw my grandchild 4 times in Haley's four years and we only live about twenty miles further from Crossville). But my mom never came to see Haley. It was my mom's loss, Haley is a sweet talented loving little girl. One good thing was she was and will be safe from my mothers scorn of her oldest daughter.
I am glad it is over. I feel that a weigh has been lifted from my shoulders. I loved my mother in a way that we all love our mothers no matter what they do. No more am I having to watch that relationship. It is over my mother is dead. I know sounds cruel, but the fight has now stopped. It is over and that is a very wonderful thing for me. I can now have some Peace. As long as they keep those damn pictures of my sister and her family with my mother away from me I will do fine.


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My Mom and my papa Jack just a week and a half before she died.
Peace, Darlene

[Azure]

I could have written those last words of yours. God, I understand the complicated stuff.

[aabram]

Darlene, thanks for posting this. I very much hope you will understand how much we all care for you and us Rudies can be your family too. Haley is a dear sweet child, and as you say, your mother's loss for not seeing her, but also Haley's loss from not knowing your mother... I hope you can move on now as fast as you want to...

After all, "friends are the family you would choose for yourself....."

Annabel

[Dee]

I could have written those last words of yours. God, I understand the complicated stuff.

As could I have, Azure.

I'm glad you got to say your goodbyes, Darlene, on your own time. It was the same for me when my grandmother died last year. I'd said my goodbyes months before she died. It's not important to me what the rest of my family thinks about how I handled it. I'm glad you have some sense of peace now.

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[hoops]

Darlene,
it seems as though your last moments with your mom, when you said your goodbyes couldn't have been better placed. you ended a tough life with her on a postive note and maybe you felt some of the love you had always missed from her. all of us children have different relationships with our parents then our siblings do, that is a hard thing for a child to understand even when that child is an adult, but as we've all learned through the years, life can be that way and usually is. now you and your mom can look forward to finding peace. when my mom died two years ago, we couldn't have been closer, yet i couldn't cry for a long time, because i knew things were really better than the two years of enourmus suffering she went thru. i was worried that i'd lost feeling somewhere, but when the time came i cried and i cried good. I wish you peace Darlene and a deep knowing that you did the right thing.
peace
hoops

[janisian]

Darlene, as absurd as it may sound, I look back on my mother's death with great fondness. It was one of the most profound experiences of my life, and I treasure it.
Condolences on your loss. Congratulations on the way you're handling it.

[BeckyVA]

Darlene,
feelings are neither right or wrong, they just are. Embrace the good you had as in your final words with her, let go of the bad and live the rest of your life with love and peace for those in your circle that love you for who you are...I'm glad you had the opportunity to say your good-byes, hold on to that. Like Dee said, it doesn.'t matter what the rest of the family thinks.
Take care of yourself, get some rest...

Becky

[aabram]

My mother died several years ago now. Watching her get smaller every time we went to see her was painful to bear, and at the end, a year after I said my good byes, I still cried. The clergy at St Mary's were marvellous and they dedicated a lunchtime communion service to her, just small, just solemn, just something for me to hold onto while the real funeral took place in the South of England. David's Auntie Dolly went much the same way and all those memories just came back as she too got smaller and ate less and less. This all still hits me unawares, and I sometimes think it's good to reflect, but not in too much detail, and I still take as little or as much as I want to. Mum and I were very close.

Annabel